Refusing terms of concession: When it is not possible to “agree to disagree” because one view is not valid
We recently found ourselves in a now-familiar location: hopelessly stuck in an unnavigable impasse on our respective paths, unable to find a way forward. And, as in so many times before, when the friction became too great and the exchange too heated and the tension too uncomfortable, you dropped an all-too-familiar final salvo designed to stop conversation and temporarily defuse the situation: “We’re just going to have to agree to disagree.” I disagree. I refuse these terms. Such a concession assumes that we both have equally valid opinions, that we’re each mutually declaring those opinions not so divergent that...
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